Forgiveness is Divine


On my personal Facebook page a few years ago, I talked about how hard it to say “apology accepted.”  Why is it so hard to accept someone’s apology sometimes?  Or, even harder, to forgive someone who has wronged or hurt us, when they haven’t apologized?

There are many reasons why it’s hard for us to forgive others.  Part of it is because we were hurt and we feel that person owes us something.  Whether it was physical, mental, emotional, or verbal, when someone betrays, hurts, or takes something from us, then we naturally want that paid back, in some form or another.  And sometimes, “I’m sorry isn’t enough, either.

This is why forgiveness is so important and can bring us happiness.  When we forgive others, we are at peace with ourselves.  I was told a long time ago that holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.  Holding grudges is only going to cause you stress and eventually wear you out, while the other person most likely has no idea, and is going on their merry way.

Accepting apologies is very difficult to do sometimes.  What can be even harder is forgiving someone who has never apologized.  Keep in mind, however, that forgiving someone does not mean you approve of what they did.  Sometimes, when someone hurts you, all you can do is let it go and walk away.  Again, this doesn’t mean letting them hurt you again.  You can forgive someone and still have boundaries.

So, think about the last person that hurt you.  If you’re still holding a grudge, then maybe it’s time to take a deep breath, let it all release, and say “No.  You don’t have a hold on me anymore.  You hurt me and I do deserve an apology, but if you’re not going to give it to me, I’ll just let this go and move forward.  If you’d like to move forward with me, that’s great, but if not, then that’s fine too.”  You’ll be happier if you learn to let go and forgive others.


Surround Yourself With Positive People


Have you ever had a negative coworker or friend whose bad mood seemed to ruin your whole day?  They just seem to have a dark cloud over their head, and eventually, that dark cloud seems to come over you by the end of the day?

Well, the opposite is true too.  It’s important to be around positive and upbeat people who can help you up instead of dragging you down.  When you are always surrounded by people who are happy, healthy, and have a positive outlook on life, you begin to see their point of view.

Also, if you’re happier, chances are others around you will be happier too.


Next Week

I apologize for the sudden disappearance.  A lot has been going on these past couple of weeks, but I just have to work through them.  Thanks for your patience.

I’ll hopefully be back to a regular schedule on Monday 🙂

Take a Hike!

A few weeks ago I finished up a class called Stress and Pain, and it was really good!  Hands down one of my favorite classes at Southern Utah University!  There is a lot to this class, and I’ll talk about parts of it later.  For now, though, I’d like to talk about Ecotherapy.

What is Ecotherapy?  Ecotherapy is a fairly new term in Psychology, coined by Howard Clinebell in his 1996 book Ecotherapy: Healing Ourselves, Healing the Earth.  According to Clinebell, Ecotherapy is interacting with the natural environment to promote physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual healing.  

Have you ever heard someone say that they were so upset that they needed to go for a walk to cool off?  They were actually on to something.  In the book we used for the class: Managing Stress by Brian Luke Seward, Seward mentioned a few different studies where environment helped calm and even heal people.  In one study, people who were shown images of nature, their serotonin levels increased.  In another study, people shown these images of nature reported decreased sense of anger.

There was a lot more information in this book as well as countless studies on the subject, but you have to remember that a lot of this is theory.  You also have to remember that this isn’t a cure-all; and what works for one person may not work for another.  That being said, being outside in nature is probably the easiest and most accessible thing we have out there to break us out of a funk or help clear our minds when we feel a little overwhelmed.

Another point to keep in mind is that you can’t get the full benefit of nature if you’re not experiencing fully.  If you’re hiking and listening to music, texting or calling, or even just sleeping outside, you will get some benefits, yes.  However, you will get so much more out of it if you either put your phone away or use it to take pictures.  I’m not suggesting that all technology is bad, but take just a few minutes break from it and let all of your sense experience what nature has to offer.  You won’t regret it.